As Valentine’s Day approaches, we thought it worthwhile to post a His and Her advice on the day. Our second post is advice from a woman for those about to celebrate V-Day.
Flowers, and Candy, and Romance, Oh My!
So you want to know how to please the lady in your life on Valentine’s Day? She hates Valentine’s day she says? Don’t waste money on flowers she says? Not the romantic type? If I had a dime for everytime I heard those words, I wouldn’t have a coupon app on my phone. Welcome to Valentine’s Day, where all bets are off, and anything goes. At risk of naming the obvious, and beating a dead horse, we’ve put together some tips to help you navigate through the weeds.
1. Every girl is different.
I don’t know who perpetuated this myth that all girls love Valentine’s day… but I wish I could shove a box of heart shaped candy down their throat. Take for example, my college roommate and myself. For Valentine’s Day she wanted the deluxe Valentine’s package a florist was offering. It came with a large bouquet of flowers, a teddy bear, a box of chocolate, and a GIANT Valentine’s card from her significant other. What did I want? A homemade meal and a night of zombie movies on the couch. If I had gotten her gift, I probably would have thought it was a joke… or wondered if my boyfriend was seeing a Kardashian on the side. If she had had my night, her man would have been sleeping on the couch… no bueno.
Some girls want all the glitz and glamour, and some girls just want something more intimate. Know your date, know what she likes, and know what will make her the happiest on the big day.
2. How long have you been dating?
Seriously though, how long HAVE you been dating? Are you dating? Did you just not want to be alone on Valentine’s? Essentially, what’s the status of your relationship – and we’re not talking about Facebook.
If you’ve been together for a long time, and you’ve noticed you’ve fallen into a routine as of late – spice it up! Take her off guard. Surprise her by making a big gesture! Send her a silly singing Valentine gram to her office. Better yet, surprise her with a stay at a Bed and Breakfast with a vineyard! A great tip for a situation like that (especially if this is not the norm) get her jewelry. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but try something from Swarovski. You still get a whole of sparkly wow factor with their crystal without paying for diamonds. Not her thing? Try a personalized charm necklace from Etsy with her birthstone and her initials. Simple, classic, personal, and sweet.
You haven’t been dating long or things just aren’t of that nature? Try a cozy, intimate dinner at a local place. Every neighborhood has those casual hidden gems. Try to avoid anywhere with too much pomp and circumstance – definitely avoid places like Filomena’s – they literally have paper doves, hearts, and streamers hanging from the ceiling above crowded tables. Not for the faint hearted.
3. Respect is Just the Minimum – Romance it Up!
You really can’t go wrong with treating your date like a lady. Don’t make it awkward or stiff – but keep in mind that this is the one day a year that you can really go all out with the inner cupid in you. Play that up. Hold the door for her, take a cab instead of the metro and help her out of it. No matter what she says, do not let her split the check. Don’t let her feel bad about the amount, either, at that point you’re lucky if she doesn’t leave you at the table. Wine and dine her. She is your special person that you chose to spend this special night with. She’s your Valentine, damnit – now is the time to pull out all the stops that are corny every other day of the year!
So there you have it, kids. Three simple rules for not ruining Valentine’s Day. Add some flowers – don’t be a jerk – give, and you shall receive! Go get ‘em, Tiger.
Be sure to also read our first post of the series, Valentine’s Day Advice: From Him.